Why Do We Behave Just Like Our Parents?
Do you remember when you were a little girl, and your parent yelled at you all the time, and criticized everything you did? When you got grown, you promised yourself you would never do those things with your own children? But, you found that even though you did everything you could to stay away from doing the same things your parents did, you ended up doing the same yelling and criticizing in your relationships, but even worse?

I can remember when I was a little girl, and I was always called “stupid” and “idiot” by my mother, and it really hurt me so bad, and it even made me angry when I got older I went to tell her I forgive her and she told me “I don’t know what you’re talking about…I never called you that!” 

OMG!!! Are you serious? You don’t recall ever calling me those things, and yet you did???

Well, I had to learn to forgive whether or not she apologized or even “recalled.” I told myself I never wanted to be like her because I didn’t want my children feeling as bad as I did.

As I started to have children, that’s exactly how it started. I was doing everything possible to keep from yelling at my children. And then, one day it happened…

My oldest daughter started screaming and yelling and throwing a tantrum out in public. I was watching her in shock, and I didn’t know what I was going to do! I took her outside, and I was talking quietly…at first…and then before I knew it, I slapped her. I said oh no, I’m so sorry. I felt so guilty for slapping her especially since I never wanted to hit my children or yell at them.

Did you know that family life is essentially a rehearsal for the next generation? Each generation is another piece in a long chain of life we inherit and pass on to our children.

The way families transmit their traditions and behaviors is through family scripts. These scripts describe the acceptable ways to behave, speak, and even think. It is essentially the shared expectation of how life should be.

The truth is that no matter how much you think you are “not like your parents” or you will do things differently, scripts don’t go away. Most of your relationship behaviors are inherited. The best way to change your behavior is to own the scripts you inherited and improvise on them.

Have you learned how to forgive and be forgiven for the the way your childhood may not have been how you desired it to be? Forgiveness is necessary for healing. I also teach this in my program where you learn how to find the hidden unforgiveness in your heart.

In my Signature program, I empower women to live a lifetime of wellness within six months time. You will walk away knowing how to change your script and owning what your old script was so you can improvise and do something different. Are you ready for change? Schedule a Healing Activation Call with me TODAY! I want to help you turn that situation around and live healed, healthy, and whole!
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For years, I felt helpless inside my own body.

Hi, I am a wife and mother, a minister, a massage therapist, and a holistic health coach. 
I am passionate about working with the body and learning more about how our bodies work, but more importantly, how to be made whole in our bodies, minds, and spirits.

Through the years, I had become a workaholic and never felt any peace. I was overwhelmed and stressed with dis-ease and pain.  I had to stop working for a while because of the chronic pain while having a husband and three children at home who needed me. 

I struggled with my health for quite some time, and I went through worse times before they got better. 

How many times have you been to a doctor, and they acted as if they couldn't figure out what's going on with you, so you go seeking doctor after doctor, looking for someone to help you because you know you are dealing with pain and need help figuring out the problem? How many times have you tried to create new habits, start new diets, introduce new patterns in your life, and end up feeling like you failed at all those things? 

And then, it happened. I have found something amazing that is helping me to understand I AM a healthy being, and I CAN recommit to a healthy, wealthy life!

I was introduced to a different way of living that many people are talking a lot about lately. I realized for my chronic situations; I needed to start getting my health under control. I’d considered it before, but I kept cycling back into a downward spiral going through a valley filled with pain. 

Prolonged physical illness not only affects us physically, but it affects everyone physically, mentally, and spiritually. Many tend to suffer a lot at the hands of doctors who make them worse, not better. I have dealt with this and it has put a bitter taste in my mouth towards doctors. The different medications did not lead to helping me get better, but they caused more pain, and side effects from the medicines caused deeper stress to my body. Anger, hurt, and pain kept showing up in my life, and I didn't know how to deal with it. These things controlled my mind, but now I am being made free. I love God, but, for quite some time, while I knew the Word says, "There is now no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus," I was still suffering from condemnation, guilt, blame, and shame.  Now, I have learned to persevere with joy during my pain because in the end, by faith, God will get the victory through my life's journey, and I can walk in my victory daily!

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