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Breaking Generational Cycles...

Breaking Generational Cycles...
I can speak of breaking a few generational cycles because I’ve lived them. I am now able to identify that childhood abandonment has been in my family trait for generations. It caused me to have childhood trauma. So I knew I had to break this vicious cycle to make sure my children no longer suffer the same childhood trauma that I did.

I had no idea that I was suffering from a generational cycle that had caused issues for my two teenagers growing up as well. I see a difference because my youngest daughter would not accept anything but what she needed from me-cuddles and love. When my older two were younger, I would push them away or find a way to be working so someone else would be the one they received care from. What that did to me was cause jealousy because what my mom could not give to me, she was willing and able to give to my children so the cycles continued until I decided this has to stop with me.

I was very unhappy when I found out I was pregnant with my third child because I never knew how to give love to my other two and I didn't want to bring another child into the world with jealousy and anger in my heart even though wanted to love.

The ability to be affectionate was a challenging experience for me. As a child, being nurtured was not a big part of my upbringing. Hugging was not seen and being told I love you were not normal. It was just supposed to be a known fact. Therefore, as an adult for many years, holding hands, saying I love you, being supportive, and giving hugs was a big issue. 

It took me a long time to break this cycle. By taking baby steps, even though being affectionate would feel weird at times, I managed to keep doing it anyway until I felt comfortable. When children are not nurtured, this can cause all kinds of emotional issues in their adulthood. So, ending this cycle was very beneficial for my children and me.

I had so many issues with needing to be in control that my children suffered often. I was always tired and would not let them into my space often.
  
I am so grateful for my husband who made a point of always saying “I love you" every time we finished a conversation- no matter what. It felt weird in the beginning and then it became more natural. I sometimes feel myself saying these things to my children, but it's still a work in progress. I see change happening daily and I am working on saying I love you more to them and hugging them more for it’s important for their precious lives.
  
Cycles are being broken in my home! Training yourself to change your thinking is a habit worth having. I choose life. What about you?

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Meet Tabitha King

 
For years, I felt helpless inside my own body.

Hi, I am a wife and mother, a minister, a massage therapist, and a holistic health coach. 
I am passionate about working with the body and learning more about how our bodies work, but more importantly, how to be made whole in our bodies, minds, and spirits.

Through the years, I had become a workaholic and never felt any peace. I was overwhelmed and stressed with dis-ease and pain.  I had to stop working for a while because of the chronic pain while having a husband and three children at home who needed me. 

I struggled with my health for quite some time, and I went through worse times before they got better. 

How many times have you been to a doctor, and they acted as if they couldn't figure out what's going on with you, so you go seeking doctor after doctor, looking for someone to help you because you know you are dealing with pain and need help figuring out the problem? How many times have you tried to create new habits, start new diets, introduce new patterns in your life, and end up feeling like you failed at all those things? 

And then, it happened. I have found something amazing that is helping me to understand I AM a healthy being, and I CAN recommit to a healthy, wealthy life!

I was introduced to a different way of living that many people are talking a lot about lately. I realized for my chronic situations; I needed to start getting my health under control. I’d considered it before, but I kept cycling back into a downward spiral going through a valley filled with pain. 

Prolonged physical illness not only affects us physically, but it affects everyone physically, mentally, and spiritually. Many tend to suffer a lot at the hands of doctors who make them worse, not better. I have dealt with this and it has put a bitter taste in my mouth towards doctors. The different medications did not lead to helping me get better, but they caused more pain, and side effects from the medicines caused deeper stress to my body. Anger, hurt, and pain kept showing up in my life, and I didn't know how to deal with it. These things controlled my mind, but now I am being made free. I love God, but, for quite some time, while I knew the Word says, "There is now no condemnation for those who belong to Christ Jesus," I was still suffering from condemnation, guilt, blame, and shame.  Now, I have learned to persevere with joy during my pain because in the end, by faith, God will get the victory through my life's journey, and I can walk in my victory daily!

I’m on a mission to help people break free and empower themselves with the knowledge and resources I’ve worked so hard to get for myself.  
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