Earlier this week, I shampooed my carpets, and today, my three-year-old decided to take a crayon and color it all over my carpet. Anxiety and rage rose in me quickly. I screamed out, but this time, not at her. Before I get into a rant, I tell my older daughter to come and get her! I needed to talk to God. I started to yell, "Lord help me! Please help me not to go off on this child in front of me!!! I'm trying so hard not to keep yelling at her, but she keeps doing things that make me want to pick her up and throw her down! Lord, help me!" As I was screaming, she came back in, and I told her I was not done yet, and she needed to go back because I was not ready to be calm to deal with her yet. But, I could hear God at that moment because I went to Him instead of yelling my anxiety at her first, and He told me to read from my devotional on 7-Day No More Yelling Moms in YouVersion, and I picked up my verse of the day and began reading it, and peace came over me. The verse is Ephesians 4:29, and it says, "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." Once I read that, I knew how to speak to my three-year-old daughter at that moment. I brought her to me and asked her if she knew what she did wrong, and she did. So, I told her she did wrong, there were consequences, and she must sit in a time out for 3 minutes and think about what she had done. I must say, in past times of trying, this did not work, and I believe it's because I went about it in my own rage, but this time, she sat for the entire three minutes, and we both had time to think. I sprayed the area and started to clean, but the Holy Spirit told me to let her scrub the area where she made the mess. Children need power and attention, and when I gave her control over the situation that she caused, she understood a lot better not to do it again. I'm not saying there will not be any other problems, but wholeness and wellness are where well-being is where we want to get to, and a sense of peace is what I need at the moment.
I'd love to have you join my community and continue praising and worshipping the Lord together. If you would like to strengthen your vocals and get ready for a joyous fellowship within the community where you will find freebies, gifts, and recipes, I would love to have you click here.
Tabitha King, LMT, M-Div.